Your emotions may be all over the place during this time.
Just be good to yourself, see your kids, be civil to your wife and you'll be fine. I met my now husband a couple of weeks after I separated, although we were only friends for a while. My exhusband and I had been emotionally divorced for a long time. If you're cool with it, then go for it! I'm not aware of any "rule," it's what feels right for the person. I would caution, however, that you are in a rebound mode at this time. Be careful not to allow loneliness or other emotions to cause you to make a bad decision. When life hands you limes, make margaritas.
Last edited by Scott S; 6th December at 5: My wife quickly got into another relationship. She told me that she needs someone.
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Most people are used to having someone around - someone to spend time with - intimately. A solid friendship tends to get "nearly" sidelined for the next level of friendship. Seen it all too often in those around me. Occasionally I think what it would be like to date another, but have zero plans on actually dating for a good long while. I'm still married for goodness sake.
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I just don't get what the rush is to be with people so quickly after a relationship ends. Is it fear of being lonely? I am separated 4 months now. I actually wouldn't consider dating or attempting another relationship. What is the rush?? I think it would be wiser to be alone have some personal growth happen than to jump back into dating and potential relationships and start it all again. I know its only my opinion but what is the rush for you guys I am not being sarcastic here please give me your honest answer what is the attraction to start something so soon?
I personally don't see anything wrong with dating but looking to be romantically involved, in my book, is a no-no. I agree that both parties as well as the one you are dating knows you are dating and not divorced. I think it is wise to not become romantically involved because you still have issues and a lot of headaches and heartache to deal with. I feel it it ok to date because it gives you the opportunity to rediscover yourself, your intersts, values, morals, wants and needs.
I think sometimes we need a raw out-side source to stimulate our senses and get our lives jump started. When I was just dating with no interest in getting seroius I stated I was JUST dating and playing the field so-to-speak without getting overly involved or invested with someone. All times are GMT The time now is 8: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice.
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You'll probably want to attract a new relationship with someone who has at least a few characteristics that are the opposite of your ex. You may want to find someone with some of the same qualities, I mean, your ex wasn't all bad, right? In addition, you want to identify some deal-breakers. I had a few: Make a list, and be sure to make the process fun.
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You're neutral about your ex. You may still have some good feelings of love and fondness, but you're not in love.
On the flip side, you've let go of any anger and homicidal feelings. You can think of your ex with no spike in emotions, no pit in your stomach, and maybe even with some thoughts of well wishes. You are actually at least a little excited at the prospect of meeting new people.
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Focus on the things you really like about yourself. If you do feel like you're ready go start dating again, Schilling says there are a couple of things you can do to prepare. The first of which being how to relay your 'divorce story. Plus it's not attractive.
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Referring back to Jennifer Garner, if the year-old actress confesses to feeling like a "dinosaur", it's little wonder those exiting a 20 or 30 year marriage might feel out of touch with advancements in the dating game. People who have been married for 30 to 40 years and are coming out the other side may need to upskill themselves on the digital world of dating.
The fact is, it is the new reality.
It's not an inappropriate or rude thing to do. I think there's a bit of re-education that needs to happen there. Finally, be prepared for other people's possibly unrelenting opinions and advice -- though there's no need to take any of it on if it's conflicting with your personal feelings. Always come back to yourself.